Dating age gap formula
Do the sexes expect - and get - different benefits from being in such a relationship?
Or does the younger partner have all the advantages, whatever their gender?
The protection he gave her and the wisdom she respected she now merely finds patronising - so, sadly, the basis for the relationship ceases to exist.'It's a slightly different situation for toyboy lovers.
True, some are motivated by the need for a mentor - but for them, it's more likely to be about sex than power or influence.
Perhaps most interesting at the end of the Amanda-Les partnership was how differently they reacted.
She was seen out and about with girlfriends, partying, shopping, looking radiant.
As usual when an age-gap relationship ends, the demise of the Amanda Holden-Les Dennis marriage (17 years between them) was met with a loud chorus of 'I-told-you-so'.
It doesn't seem to matter how wise we all are to the fact that age-gap relationships are unlikely to last; there will always be plenty of couples with a generation or more between them who want to give it a go.
All this seems to indicate that age-gap relationships have very different effects on men and women.
It's the 'Mrs Robinson' fantasy - the sexually experienced older woman teaching the innocent young man.
'It's a sad fact that the older woman does not have the same degree of kudos as the older man.
Motivation Relationship counsellor and sex therapist Julia Cole thinks that men and women do have very different motivation in this situation.
'A man who has a much younger, very attractive partner will see it as a vindication of his masculinity,' says Julia.