Dating while divorcing adultery
The grief cycle can extend as the couple hesitate in the good times and bad that encamp every failing relationship. This confuses the rejected spouse since it seems he or she can’t, or never could, do anything right. In his or her mind, the initiating person compares the spouse of ten, twenty or thirty years with their new partner, who appears in the pink cloud of infatuation.The type and intensity of feelings are different for each person. The rejected spouse cannot measure up to the illusion of perfection and compatibility.Researchers hypothesize that perhaps happier people have stronger self-esteem or self-efficacy and are therefore more willing and able to leave a bad marriage.
The leaver should not expect the rejected spouse to understand or agree.
Based on the answers, the group was divided into three: those with none of the positive markers, those with one, and those with two or more.
Then at ages 36, 43, and 53, researchers went back to the same people to measure their incidence of mental disorder, life satisfaction (participants rated themselves), and social lives.
And given the devastating effect of mental disorder on people, their families, and society, it’s a huge difference.
It supports the idea that we need to put effort to the early years to make sure all children have the best start they can.