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It’s not always going to be something you can understand or wrap your head around.
Sometimes it’s going to be “you make my vagina cry”.
After nearly a year of silence, I reached out to her and we began a series of conversations toward repairing our friendship. She stopped responding to my email and when I called to inquire she blocked my number and emailed me to stop contacting her.
She said she had recently begun dating someone new and I think it was difficult for her to talk to me about our relationship. Over a space of nine months, I wrote her two kind emails in the spirit of healing.
I’m talking about breaking off all contact with the most intimate person in our lives without civility — refusing to answer the phone, reply to emails, or acknowledge any aspect of their communication or needs — often without explanation. Now, to set the stage: Emma, Reifman’s ex, was a (much younger – this is going to be important, too) woman he met in a New Media class.
Last week, several of my readers forwarded me an article on Medium called “Shining Light on Cutoff Culture“, a think piece by one Jeff Reifman, about closure and communication.Saying “I want to stay friends” ((In those moments where they’re being serious rather than trying to make the break-up less awkward)) is a someone wants to make an effort to make sure you’re ok afterwards, that’s very sweet of them. I consider not causing someone unnecessary pain to be key part of being a good man rather than an asshole.Now stop trying to out-clever me and pay attention.) And – importantly – you’re owed an explanation and you’re not owned a “resolution”. Well that’s because: Over and over again, Reifman insists that everything happened without explanation and that he needs “closure” and that he deserves some sort of “resolution” to the end of their (again: ) relationship.This is something I see over and over again – mostly from men, but from women too – people complaining that they can’t get over someone because they need “closure”.In theory, the idea behind closure is that either by confronting the issues that ended the relationship or having a final airing of grievances, the afflicted party will finally be able to tie their relationship up in a neat bow and sail off into the sunset. that’s not only not how things work but that’s usually .